Sunday, 28 June 2020

- The Rose Letters- June 28, 2020 -


Summertime-Summertime–Summertime in the City





Hello my Realers:

Summertime is here yes yes yes!. Be safe - we are still living in a serious pandemic.

Okay, I am going to finally address this topic. I had several Realers asking me what do I think of an open relationship? Would I participate in an open relationship?

First, let’s define an open relationship. An open relationship means you still have one primary partner, but both can have other sexual partners.

The question is and be honest with yourself, Are you thinking about having an open relationship with your partner? Because some folks think having an open relationship will save a failing relationship or marriage. That is not going to save your marriage, you know that, and I know that too. What is going to save your failing relationship is open and honest communication–therapy would help too.

Let’s be real Realers, if an open relationship is what you want, you gotta ask yourself certain questions, like “do I want sexual freedom or pulling away from the closeness from my current partner?” “Is there something missing?”

I mean, in all fairness, talk with your partner. Just maybe what you are missing is right in your bedroom or s/he is open to a little somethin’ somethin’ on the side too.

Now, what do I think of open relationships and do I think they work? I believe for an open relationship to work, there must be some foundations. You must be completely open and honest with your partner.  Open relationships are not about cheating and/or keeping tabs of how many people you got with. It is about being free to have other sexual experiences.


Do I think they would work, mmmmmmm not sure – don’t even know, but I am glad and happy as a lark that Realers are having conversations about this subject. The world is changing, and we are questioning if old ways are working. This is happening in all areas of our lives, why not our love and sex life?

I know, get to the point; would I participate in an open relationship?

No! And not because I am jealous. Jealousy is not my cup of tea and it's certainly not to put claim on someone else's sexuality because they do not own mine. The number #1 reason, I do not want to entertain the idea of an open relationship, is I do not want to deal with his jealousy or girlfriend’s drama when she may want more from him…just sayin’!

At the end of the day, you decide what relationship works for you. It is your body, your heart, and your mind. Remember Realers, the most important relationship is with you darlin’

Here are the take-a -ways and the link to read the details.


1.   Your relationship has to be solid.
2.   Both people must be completely honest with themselves
3.   Lay some ground rules.

In the meantime, Keep it Real!


BTMB Contributor
Toni Counts Rose
Email Me: groovytee12@yahoo.com

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