Summertime-Summertime–Summertime in the City
“My great hope is to laugh as
much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the
courage to accept the love in return.”
Hello
my Realers:
Summertime
is here yes yes yes!. Be safe - we are still living in a serious
pandemic.
Okay,
I am going to finally address this topic. I had several Realers asking me what
do I think of an open relationship? Would I participate in an open
relationship?
First,
let’s define an open relationship. An open
relationship means you still have one primary partner, but both can have other
sexual partners.
The
question is and be honest with yourself, Are you thinking about
having an open relationship with
your partner? Because some folks think having an open relationship will save a
failing relationship or marriage. That is not going to save your marriage, you
know that, and I know that too. What is going to save your failing relationship
is open and honest communication–therapy would help too.
Let’s be real Realers, if
an open relationship is what you want, you gotta ask yourself certain
questions, like “do I want sexual freedom or pulling away
from the closeness from my current partner?” “Is there something
missing?”
I mean, in all fairness,
talk with your partner. Just maybe what you are missing is right in
your bedroom or s/he is open to a little somethin’ somethin’ on the
side too.
Now,
what do I think of open relationships and do I think they work? I believe for
an open relationship to work, there must be some foundations. You must be
completely open and honest with your partner. Open relationships are
not about cheating and/or keeping tabs of how many people you got
with. It is about being free to have other sexual experiences.
Do I
think they would work, mmmmmmm not sure – don’t even know, but I am glad and
happy as a lark that Realers are having conversations about this subject. The
world is changing, and we are questioning if old ways are working. This is
happening in all areas of our lives, why not our love and
sex life?
I know,
get to the point; would I participate in an open relationship?
No! And
not because I am jealous. Jealousy is not my cup of tea and
it's certainly not to put claim on someone else's sexuality
because they do not own mine. The number #1 reason, I do not want to entertain
the idea of an open relationship, is I do not want to deal with his jealousy
or girlfriend’s drama when she may want more from him…just sayin’!
At the
end of the day, you decide what relationship works for you. It is your body,
your heart, and your mind. Remember Realers, the most important relationship is
with you darlin’
Here are
the take-a -ways and the link to read the details.
1. Your relationship has to be solid.
2. Both people must be completely honest with themselves
3. Lay some ground rules.
In the meantime, Keep it Real!
BTMB Contributor
Toni Counts Rose
Email Me:
groovytee12@yahoo.com
