Keep it Real - Why Ghosting Sucks
and
How to Get
Over It!
“It’s
not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness
a priority. It’s necessary.” ― Mandy Hals
Hey
Realers:
Thank
you all for taking care of us and staying at home
Ghosting - the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone
by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.
Have you been ghosted before?
Well I have and man it is heartbreaking! You just want the pain of NOT knowing
why, to just go away immediately! If not? Soon and, forever right?
Ghosting is when someone you believe cares about,
whether a friend or romantic lover, does the disappearing act without any
explanation – no phone call, email, text, kiss my butt NOTHING!
Ghosting can make you feel disrespected, used, and
disposable; and kicked to the curb without knowing why. Also, it can fuck with
your mental state by making you feel weird, broken, damaged, or just not
feeling worthy
Why
do men ghost?
Not
to deal with awkwardness, confrontation, vulnerability, disappointment, and embarrassment
In
doing my research, I also reached out to several of my male Realers and asked
why men ghost women. I must say, gotta love men!
J-was just killing time, didn’t like the sex
anymore, too much drama
E-tired of her, never really liked her,
didn’t want to argue or debate
C- she lied, something I didn’t like, didn’t
like the sex. But felt I should have confronted it and man up
T-interest faded, what I expected was no
longer there. But I should have told her!
E-tried to change me, didn’t like her
anymore, became an inconvenience, too much trouble
K-just got tired of her ass
F-men not wanting to face responses of what they
received from the woman; they do not want to deal with the responses,
therefore, they go MIA
D-emotional fear of being conquered, feeling
discontent, lacked the ability to verbalize. But don’t believe men actually go
ghost without it affecting them consciously
How
do you move forward?
Remember my Realers,
it ain’t nothing about you or your worthiness. It is about that he does not
have the courage to deal with the discomfort of yours or his emotions. When one
of my boos ended our relationship, he had the decency to send me a good-bye
email. I had to read through the lines that he wanted out, but I got it, loud
and clear and did not have to wonder is it over or not…Bottomline Realers, we
owe people the time of day to tell them we are outta here. Whether it be
communicated via text, email, letter, pigeon, phone, something-just do not
ghost them-you are much more mature than that right?
Realers, know that you
are much more than that. The ghoster was not on your groove line and someone
better is coming your way. Keep your heart open!
Here are
the take-a -ways and the link to read the details.
Ø What can you do if you’ve been ghosted? you
may also want to do a gut check
Ø What can you do instead of ghosting? speak your truth… easier said than done, I
know!
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/loving-bravely/201910/why-ghosting-sucks-and-how-get-over-it
Realers
I have a blog now
See
the link below and you may reply to the email too.
scroll
down: The Rose Letters
In the meantime, Keep
it Real!
-BTMB Contributor-
Toni Counts Rose
Toni Counts Rose
Email Me: groovytee12@yahoo.com
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